Tuesday, July 03, 2007

Do you have low self-esteem sometimes?

I never thought about this question myself. But when the school is coming, and I am entering the third trimester of pregnancy, I felt nervous all the time. From time to time, I dreamed that I failed the class or I felt lost in the school. I do know why I suddenly become so worried. My husband told me that the reason I felt nervous all the time is because I have low self-esteem sometimes. I agree with it although I am not clearly aware of this. I tried to analyze this emotion by searching some psych tips from online.

Today, I search the web using key word of self-esteem. I found that even some successful people like businessmen, lawyers and doctors have low self-esteem and suffer depression. Do you find yourself sometimes suffering from low self-esteem also?

  • Characteristics of Genuinely Low Self Esteem (from online)
    1. Social withdrawal
    2. Anxiety and emotional turmoil
    3. Lack of social skills and self confidence. Depression and/or bouts of sadness
    4. Less social conformity
    5. Eating disorders
    6. Inability to accept compliments
    7. An Inability to see yourself 'squarely' - to be fair to yourself
    8. Accentuating the negative
    9. Exaggerated concern over what they imagine other people think
    10. Self neglect
    11. Treating yourself badly but NOT other people
    12. Worrying whether you have treated others badly
    13. Reluctance to take on challenges
    14. Reluctance to trust your own opinion
    15. Expect little out of life for yourself

I know someone might think I am crazy and worried too much. Some people think it will be easier than I thought and I should feel relaxed. This really depends on a person's personality. Maybe because I want to be a good mother badly and at the same time I also want to do my best in school or at least survive from the hectic B-School first term's events and courses. Since I realize this emotion is harmful to my way to the school and to my current life, I feel that I need boost my self-esteem and raise my confidence before I start my B-school Journey.

Here is I found out from online: 7 ways to boost you self-esteem quickly:
  • Think back to when you did something new for the first time.
  • Do something you have been putting off.
  • Do something you are good at.
  • Stop thinking about yourself!
  • Get seriously relaxed.
  • Remember all the things you have achieved.
  • Remember that you could be wrong!
I wish this can be helpful and I wish I can feel better in July 4th.

Happy to everyone! Thanks for all the encouragements.

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

I think it's wonderful that you have taken on motherhood for the second time along with bschool. Many congrats to achieve success both professionally & personally! :)

camojack said...

Low self-esteem? ME?! Ha!

No, not hardly...I'm terrific!!!

MaybeMBA said...

I can definitely relate. Hoping it doesn't hold me back in school ... I know it can be hard. Hope you feel a little more faith in yourself these days!